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Being Black / 02.09.2017

Recently I decided to take my kids to the north side of the city to show them a bit of my childhood.  I knew my 4 year old wouldn’t be as interested as my girls so I made sure to incorporate something especially for him:  a stop at a playground.  I did my research and found an amazing playground nestled in a perfectly shaded nature reserve.  Once we arrived, Ham gravitated to two boys about his age and started playing a game of Stinky Feet.  All seemed well...

Being Mom / 16.06.2017

After seven long years of marriage, A.L. and I have mutually decided to part ways.  It’s been a long time coming. (Read: I Don’t Wife Very Well) Before the ink could dry on the divorce papers, I decided that I wanted to leave our home with all of its toxic memories and start anew…at my parents’ house. Yup, I'm officially a boomerang kid. (sigh)   It’s comforting to know I can count on my parents’ house as a refuge until I can get myself together but this time around it’s...

Being Muslim / 27.05.2017

As a Muslim, I should spend my time with activities that will benefit my relationship with Allah in this life and the Hereafter. Honestly, like most people I fall short of my goals and have allowed my love of trap music to influence my life more than it should.  This is one reason why I consider myself MixMatchMom. The  trap music I listen to is in complete opposition to what a Muslim should love.  Trap music today has a common theme of obscenities, misogyny, immodesty, antisocial behavior, and an...

Being Mom / 12.04.2017

So it’s happened. My daughter has officially entered womanhood aka started her period. Oh my God, I was not ready. But here I am. We had conversations previously about what to expect but I never went into details about all the work it takes once her time came.   Maybe you’re like me and have a preteen daughter that’s showing the tell-tale signs that Aunt Flow will be paying her a visit soon. How do you prepare yourself and her for what’s to come? Where do you start? Here's where...

Being Mom / 08.03.2017

Raising daughters is no easy feat. I can still remember the time when they were sweet little angels. As we move closer toward adolescence, there’s been all kinds of changes I’ve not prepared for. I should have expected the emotional drama since I’m a pretty sensitive person. Duddy has practically been in her feelings since Day One so I expected her level of mood swings to be times 100 as she moves through puberty. On the other hand, Mimmy’s journey has really thrown me for a loop.
Being Mom / 01.03.2017

Yes, you read it right. My four year old son plays with action figures, plush animals, cars and trucks, and Barbies. He picked up this interest earlier this year in attempts to be included in play time with his sisters. You may be asking yourself, "What mother allows her son to play with dolls?", "Isn't she worried she'll 'confuse' her son?", "What will people say?"and "Does her husband know?" My response to these questions is "Calm down!" He chooses to play with the Ken doll every time.  So what...

Being Me / 23.02.2017

My family recently experienced a painful loss. My brother in law, J.P., died this past summer from a rare form of cancer.  He had been receiving chemotherapy and experimental treatments for months after his diagnosis and we all were in denial about his terminal illness.  I mean, he looked and acted healthy. He would pick up my nephew from school everyday and he never missed a single one of his baseball games. He continued to travel around the world with my nephew. He was living life so optimistically,...

Being Me / 15.02.2017

Let me explain. I was raised in a two-parent home but with the sort of situation where my parents divorced each other but no one ever moved out and on with their lives. Growing up in this environment gave me a skewed view of marriage that I have carried into my adulthood. My model of marriage said it was tolerable to be an unfulfilled and brokenhearted wife. It was normal for your husband to do want he wants without your consideration because he’s the breadwinner. There was no need to...